Where do I stand?

It’s natural for me to allow what others want to be important that what I want or even what I need.  It’s not something that I am particularly proud of.  In fact, until recently, i didn’t even realize i did it.  It was just a part of what I did.  It’s a hard thing to admit that you allow others happiness to be more important that what is best for you.  But, I can’t do that anymore.  From now on, I am going to do what is best for me.  That doesn’t mean that I will not be a giving person. But, I want to make decisions based on what I believe is best for me.  This issue comes up because I met a new guy.  And the one thing that I am not going to do is be physically intimate with this guy (until he has a ring on my finger).  I know it sounds like i’m jumping the gun, but I need to be sure where i stand.  The emotional baggage that comes with not ending up with a guy whom i’ve been with is something that I cannot handle.  Seriously, it would take another decade for me to get out of that roller coaster.  I admit this is a decision that is not easy.  I have never done this before, but I am adamant that this is what’s up. When the time is right, I will have this discussion with this guy.  If we’re not on the same page – spiritually, emotionally, and physically- then I’d rather not be involved with him in any way.  I am more than aware that the devil is always ready to pounce on you when you make a decision like this, so I’m asking God to walk with me on this one.  I can’t do it alone.  I told my bff this, and she said “are you serious? I don’t know about all that.”  Well, I’m here to prove to her that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.  If this guy is the real deal, he will respect my decision.  And if he’s not, then i’d rather know now than later.